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A walk through your wedding day

This is a guide as to how your day could work at Pelham House.
Each wedding is unique and the following won't be the same for all couples.
Please speak to the Events Team for a clearer guide on your day dependent on your ceremony time, the package you choose and your guest numbers.

7 am


Your big day is here

You have waited many months for today and now it is finally here. It is time to spend your incredible wedding day at one of Lewes’ best kept secrets; Pelham House. All of your planning is a distant memory and our talented caterering and Events Team, are hard at work creating your perfect day and menu. You have most likely been here a few times now so you know your way, but make sure to allow time for travelling via train or parking. If you are driving, we have five parking spaces in the courtyard which are reserved for the wedding couple, the registrar and for any suppliers who require ease of access to the venue.

9 am


Your dressing room awaits

From 9 am you will be able to access our light and stylish Dressing Room. Located on the second floor of The Courthope Mews, this luxurious space is designed for that all-important pampering and is furnished with everything you could need for putting the finishing touches to your look. Those precious hours before the ceremony will be spent with your nearest and dearest and as you get ready, you can have a sneak peek of your guests arriving with windows overlooking the courtyard and entrance to Pelham House.

12 noon


Your exclusive hire begins

Pelham House is yours for the day, and while you are pampering and preening, the team will be making the house picture perfect and working closely with your chosen suppliers to transform the venue into your wedding vision. Together, they will bring the venue to life with their creations. If you have chosen a church wedding, the venue is still yours to use as you please. We will amend the running of the day to accommodate these arrangements and you can find six beautiful churches within a mile of Pelham House.

1:30 pm


Day guests begin to arrive

As you watch on from The Dressing Room, our Events Team will greet your guests at the door and direct them to either The Goring Room or our beautiful Gazebo in the garden. Don’t forget to share our parking guide so your guests have time to park or get the train. You are the only one who may be fashionably late today!

1:45 pm


Meet with the registrar

Just before the ceremony, you will both (separately) answer a few questions with the registrar. This is an informal chat so you are both prepared for the next steps.

2 pm


Say ‘I do’

Your nearest and dearest will be seated and awaiting your imminent arrival. Make the short walk across the courtyard to join 150 of your guests gathered in the romantic Goring Room, or along the path through the garden to The Gazebo and treat them to a memorable entrance. Get ready for some of the most important words you will ever say.

2:30 pm


Welcome drinks

After your ceremony, mingle with your loved ones on the Terrace or in the elegant Garden Room and treat them to a memorable drinks reception. A Prosecco bar or cocktail station coupled with a mouth-watering plethora of canapés will certainly go down a treat. This is also the ideal time for guests to check into their rooms and freshen up for the day ahead.

3 pm


Camera ready

Your photographer will whisk you away to some of the most romantic spots in Pelham House, favourites being the sweeping staircase, the entrance to our fabulous venue and the secluded picturesque gardens. Make the most of your group shots and gather on the Terrace overlooking the rolling lawn as your photographer snaps away from the second floor of the house for a unique perspective on your day.

4 pm


Take your seats

It's time for your guests to take their seats ready for a marvelous feast, while they wait for you to be introduced into the splendid Blencowe Room.

4:30 pm


Your wedding breakfast

There is plenty of space for anywhere between 50 and 150 guests and the Events Team will have prepared the room as per your request, it's now time for your first meal as a married couple.

6:30 pm


Say a few words

Pelham House is yours to enjoy as you wish, so it is up to you whether you hold your speeches before or after the wedding breakfast. Once you have finished your first meal as a married couple, retire to The Garden Room, take in the glorious garden views and mingle with your guests in a relaxed contemporary setting. Your evening entertainment can take this opportunity to discreetly set up in The Blencowe Room and get everything ready for the perfect party.

7:30 pm


Evening guests arrive

Your evening guests will arrive and start to join the party. If necessary, we can subtly adjust the room layout to accommodate a larger party, and make room for the dance floor, of course.

8 pm


Get the party started & cake cutting

Now all your friends and family have gathered and are ready to witness you cut the cake and come together for your first dance. After this take to the dance-floor and dance the night away with the ones you love in the Blencowe Room. Any additional entertainment that you may want to offer, such as a photo booth, can easily be accommodated .

08:30 pm


Al fresco evening bites

As evening falls, you can treat your guests to an array of stunning food options. The chefs will cook anything from wood-fired pizzas to American barbecue and fragrant wok food in the Garden Kitchen which can either be served outside as the sun sets or indoor should the weather take a turn for the worse.

10:30 pm


Gardens close

At this time the terrace doors from the bar to the terrace are closed so that your guests can enjoy the party indoors with you.

11:15 pm


Last orders

Your bar manager will call last orders and start to draw the night to a close. It is time for one last drink and a final dance with your friends and family.

11:15 pm


The wind down

Your DJ or band will turn down the tempo and change the evening music to a calmer level, making it the perfect time for you to say thank you and goodnight. With 28 comfortable bedrooms on site that can accommodate for up to 56 adults plus children, as well as the luxurious Pelham Suite, with its private lounge and exquisite style, you will find a great deal of space at Pelham House for you and your loved ones.

12 Midnight


The journey home

We ask that all guests who are not residing at Pelham House for the night to vacate the venue by midnight. We recommend local taxis are booked in advance to avoid disappointment.

The following day

8.30 am


Breakfast in style

Gather together once again in the morning and enjoy a delicious breakfast from 8.30 am onwards in The Panelled Room and the Breakfast Room. This is a wonderful way to end your time at Pelham House as you eat, drink and reminisce about your big day with your closest friends and family.

10 am


Check out time

Your items from the day before will be collated and ready for you when you leave, so it is time to say your final goodbyes to your guests, our team and to Pelham House. We wish you the best of luck with married life!


  • Exclusive use of Pelham House from 12 noon on the day of the wedding
  • The Dressing Room
  • The Goring Room – Your ceremony room
  • The Gazebo – Your outdoor ceremony area
  • The Panelled Room – The breakfast room
  • The Blencowe Room – Your dining room
  • The Garden Room – Bar and lounge area
  • The Garden Kitchen – Outdoor kitchen area
  • The Terrace
  • Tables and chairs
  • Access to the gardens


Before your wedding day

Full event organisation from the moment you book right up until the big day itself.

You are invited to a tasting event held at Pelham House, subject to availability and date of wedding; please confirm details with our Events Team. A small fee is applicable.

On your wedding day

  • Two to three reception drinks per person
  • Canapés included with the Deluxe and Premier packages
  • A wonderful three, or four course meal
  • An optional Midweek package
  • Up to half a bottle of your chosen wine per person (additional bottles can be purchased)
  • Still and sparkling water and juices throughout the meal
  • A glass of sparkling wine or champagne per person for the toast
  • All non-package drinks are provided by our fully licensed bar
  • Selection of teas and Fairtrade coffee
  • All required crockery, cutlery, glassware and service linens
  • A Front of House Director
  • Team of experienced serving staff
  • An easel to display your table plan
  • A silver cake stand and knife

What is not provided

Separate fee payable to the church or registry office.

Please note that you need to book the registrar or church yourselves.


How do we confirm our wedding at Pelham House?

If you decide that Pelham House is the perfect venue for you, our booking portal makes it easy for you to check our availability and book your chosen wedding date with ease. To access the portal, please visit bookthevenue.co.uk/pelhamhouse and login with the details provided to you at your showround.

How much deposit is required to book the date?

£500 of your venue hire fee.

Who books the ceremony?

You will need to contact the local registrar to inform them of your chosen venue, your wedding date and preferred time.
East Sussex Registry Office
Southover Grange
Southover High St

0345 608 0198

If you would prefer a church wedding, you can still make use of The Dressing Room before your ceremony.

Alternatively, you may choose to arrive at Pelham House after your wedding ceremony. There are six churches within a one-mile radius of Pelham House (10-15 minutes’ walk). The Lewes parish church is the beautiful St. Michael’s only a few minutes’ walk away.

Can we get married outside at Pelham House?

Yes, Pelham House is licensed for both indoor and outdoor ceremonies. Outdoor ceremonies take place in The Gazebo.

How many can Pelham House seat for a ceremony?

We can seat between 50 and 125 guests for both an indoor or outdoor ceremony. We can accommodate up to 150 guests with some standing.

How many can Pelham House seat for the wedding breakfast?

We can seat between 50 and 150 guests for your wedding breakfast.

What time are we able to access the venue from?

The Dressing Room will be available for you to access from 9 am.
The Pelham Suite will be available to access from 12 noon.

What time can suppliers access the venue from?

Suppliers have access from 10 am.

What time does the venue close?

The Gardens will be closed off at 10:30 pm. Last orders will be called at 11:15 pm. The music will wind down at 11:30 pm. The venue closes at 12 midnight. We ask that non-residents have pre-booked taxis to collect them by 12 midnight. Residents are to vacate to their rooms at midnight.

Can we have candles at our wedding?

Candles are permitted at Pelham House however, they must be placed in suitable candle holders. Battery operated candles are also a great alternative. Please speak to your event manager for further information regarding this.

Can we have confetti at the wedding?

Yes, but we only permit real petal confetti and for it to be thrown outside on the paved areas or inside in the Goring Room or hallway.

What payment options do you accept at the bar?

We accept credit and debit card payments at our bar. Unfortunately, we cannot accept cash.

Are we allowed outdoor music?

Due to our town centre location and out of respect to our neighbours, we can accommodate acoustic music only for a drinks reception.
Music can be played through a speaker for your outdoor ceremony, at an appropriate level. Unamplified strings, acoustic guitars and singing are welcomed, however the following instruments and equipment are not permitted:

Drums including, but not limited to:
Bongo, Steel drum, Digital or traditional drum kits, Bagpipes and amplified music of any kind whatsoever

All musical entertainment intended to be played outside must be approved by the venue staff in advance.

Does the venue have heating and or air conditioning facilities?

Yes, we have heating for the colder months and air conditioning for the warmer months.

Can we have sky lanterns?

Unfortunately lanterns are not permitted.

Can we have fireworks at our wedding?

Unfortunately fireworks are not permitted.

Do you have a smoking area?

Yes, there is a smoking area in the east end of the garden. Smoking is prohibited anywhere within the building, the courtyard or on the terrace

Can we have drones?

Due to our town centre location drones are not permitted.

Do we have to use your recommended suppliers?

Other than using our expert on-site catering team, for any catering and drink provision, you are welcome to use your own suppliers. We have a useful list of recommended suppliers to share with you. Just ask our Events Team for a copy of this.

Do we need to take out wedding insurance?

We strongly recommend that you take out wedding insurance. Weddings are a big investment and fingers crossed you’ll never need to call on your insurance, but having it in place will cover you for a range of eventualities.


Is there accommodation on site?

Yes, Pelham House has 29 bedrooms, including the fabulous Pelham Suite.

Do we have to take the accommodation?

You do not have to take our accommodation if you do not wish to.

Do we have to take a minimum number of bedrooms?

No, there is no minimum requirement for booking rooms.

How much is the accommodation?

Prices below are shown for 2023 wedding dates.
See our accommodation guide for all future years pricing. Prices are shown including VAT, the rates include breakfast.

Mon-Thur* Fri-Sun
Single £53 £84
Standard Double £95 £126
Feature Double £137 £167
Pelham Suite £315 £375

* Except during August, 24 Dec-2 Jan and Bank Holidays which are charged at the Fri-Sun rate

Do you have any accommodation special offers?

Yes, if you book 15 rooms within two months of booking your wedding date, you will receive The Pelham Suite free.

Will we be able to stay at the venue the night
before the wedding?

This is something that may be possible, depending on availability closer to the date of your wedding.

We require a minimum of 10 bedrooms to be booked if you
wish to stay the night before.

We will release the night before the wedding date
4 months prior.

Please speak with our team if this is something that
you may be interested in.

How do we book the accommodation?

Once you have booked your wedding date we will send you
a link to the website and a secret code which will unlock the
bedrooms for the night of your wedding. You can then book
as many rooms as you require before sharing the code with
your guests for them to book and pay for their own rooms.

Where is breakfast served?

Breakfast is served from the Atrium kitchen and in the
Panelled Room the morning after your wedding.


Will our guests find Pelham House easily?

We recommend that you share a copy of the directions to Pelham House with your guests as it contains a parking guide with local car parks.

Where can our guests park?

There are car parks available throughout Lewes. The closest being at the train station, a three-minute walk away. Again, we recommend that you share the directions and car parking guide with your guests.

Do you offer a shuttle service?

Yes, we offer a taxi shuttle service from Lewes train station, this service is available for two hours before your ceremony and will continue until just before your ceremony.

How many car parking spaces are available at the venue?

We have 5 spaces in the courtyard which are available to the couple. Cars will need to be collected by 10 am the following day.

Where is the nearest train station?

Lewes Train station is a three-minute walk away.

Your wedding journey starts here…